It must be emphasized that great importance is the duration of the intervals between births. So, if the family are two more children, the sibling (with a difference of up to two years), they have the features of older and younger children are very mild, they do not have time to realize the difference in the attitude of parents. The eldest child in this case did not have to play the role of “guardian” Junior, take care of it. If children of different gender, in a psychological sense, and the youngest child to parents — “firstborn”, psychological first child, for example the first son. In this case, some of the patterns belonging to the firstborn (namely, that its development is again for the mother and father the opening of the new), applies to the second child of the other sex (as the development and nurturing of a baby boy after the experience of raising a girl — for new parents).
The same regularities are possible in a family with several children, where children grow “pairs” (boy—girl). An example of this is the Ulyanov family, which was like three pairs: older children: Anna and Sasha medium: Volodya (the future leader of the revolution in Russia) and Junior – Mitya and named maniasha (Mary), of whom the whole family perceived as small Continue reading
“Try for one day to record all the phrases and comments that you tell your children. And find that more than half of the words and claims are of a negative connotation,” so begins a seminar for parents of Kiev psychologist and coach Evgeny Miroshnichenko.
The Soviet model of education, according to him, today’s children are not suitable. Strict discipline and insistence on the part of parents, children often perceive as a dislike. Post-Soviet moms and dads have to learn the respect for children, and the ability to clearly designate the boundaries of what, and more importantly, effective communication, without shouting and humiliation. But, it turns out, not many can do it. Adults unconsciously reproduce anything that you experienced in childhood. To break this vicious circle, of Ukrainian parents are sent to special training.
“I tell my son the same hurtful words that I once said mother, and blamed myself for it. But how to explain to him that you need to learn, don’t know,” about such a complaint comes to training every other parent. “Many adults think about how to educate children, not to cause them psychological trauma they received in childhood, standing in a corner on the buckwheat,” says Evgeny Miroshnichenko.
Instead of a slap
According Continue reading
Your son prefers cars to all the other toys? What explains this preoccupation?
Despite the fact that the house has already tens of wheeled equipment, the child still rejoices greatly, if he has received as a gift another car, bus, tractor… And my mother is going through, because his son needed to fully develop, and, in addition to cars, not interested in anything.
Why is he so loves cars?
Well-known theory of imitation, in which a boy in the games tries on the role of the father or other reputable men, sitting behind the wheel of a car, in our case it does not work. The fact is that the baby begins to identify themselves by gender in the age of about 3 years, and the passion for cars appears much earlier, some boys are already for a year and a half. Passion during this time (from 1 year to 3 years) is gaining momentum and later reinforced by the understanding that “I, as a dad, I love to ride in the car.” And from this understanding becomes even stronger. But even before one and a half years, and more specifically, in the prenatal period of a boy’s body begins to produce male-specific hormones — androgens, which, in the opinion of physiologists, and are the reason for choosing “masculine” Continue reading