One day you’re trying to dress your baby to go for a walk and he empties your jacket with a cry: “I am myself!” You invite him to go to lunch, but he refused, despite the fact that obviously hungry. Congratulations, it is a crisis three years ! We will tell, what it is and how to survive.
During the crisis three years it seems that the baby is doing everything contrary. The old ways of managing no longer work, the little one stops to listen. It can ruffle even the most patient parent.
One of the most prominent Russian psychologists L. S. Vygotsky described the “semitische symptoms” of the crisis three years
Negativism — the child refuses to do something just because it is offered by an adult. He seeks to do the opposite, often to the detriment of their own interests.
Stubbornness — the child insists on something just because he asked. If the child badly wants any toy and her persistently seeks is not stubbornness. If you see that actually it is not so and want something, and it continues to demand only because he does not want to back down from his words — that’s called stubbornness.
Obstinacy — the denial lifestyle, which has evolved up to 3 years, what he did before. The child does not like the way his clothes, he rebels against having to hold Continue reading
Ended the school year, the long-awaited summer time: you can sleep as much as you like, no homework, no school – freedom, in a word!
But the parents now the question arises, what to do with the child, so that it will not go crazy from boredom and excess energy during the summer holidays, so as not brought to mind the immediate family and the time went to good use.
Of course, summer camps, kids clubs, etc. trip to village to the grandmother and the grandfather, vacation with her parents is a great idea. But, as a rule, free time still remains and it needed something to fill.
I offer readers Mirsovetov few ideas how to spend your summer holidays and leave time for boredom and idleness, for parents, or for those who will be with the child during the holidays at home.
The first thing I would like to say, is a very important mode of the day and its planning. So all day you with a child was based on a clear plan. Predictability and constancy give the child a sense of confidence and peace of mind, he knows what to do at one or another point of time.
Not necessarily stand up in alarm, and as early as in school, but it is desirable that it was one and the same time and not too late. It is important Continue reading
Svetlana Ovchinnikova, privately practicing psychologist, psychoanalyst, psychiatrist of the 1st category.
Many people facing divorce family are staying in a very typical misconception: finally, the hated spouse is gone, dissolved in the air or something like that. However, in most cases, especially if the family has children, everything goes differently.
Many parents hope that their divorce the child will suffer quietly and upset if this does not happen. All children suffer the divorce of parents is hard and this is quite normal. Only some of his experiences publicly display, while others, suffering no less, do not show it. The external peace of the child in the situation of parental divorce often means the beginning of the development of neurosis.
What’s going on?
To divorce children react with fear and confusion. In the mind of the child the parents decision to break up is not divorce them with each other, and divorce one of them with him. Fear overcomes him not only because of the loss of his father (which is often), but fears to lose his mother, often because their parents explain divorce: “We no longer understand each Continue reading