It must be emphasized that great importance is the duration of the intervals between births. So, if the family are two more children, the sibling (with a difference of up to two years), they have the features of older and younger children are very mild, they do not have time to realize the difference in the attitude of parents. The eldest child in this case did not have to play the role of “guardian” Junior, take care of it. If children of different gender, in a psychological sense, and the youngest child to parents — “firstborn”, psychological first child, for example the first son. In this case, some of the patterns belonging to the firstborn (namely, that its development is again for the mother and father the opening of the new), applies to the second child of the other sex (as the development and nurturing of a baby boy after the experience of raising a girl — for new parents).
The same regularities are possible in a family with several children, where children grow “pairs” (boy—girl). An example of this is the Ulyanov family, which was like three pairs: older children: Anna and Sasha medium: Volodya (the future leader of the revolution in Russia) and Junior – Mitya and named maniasha (Mary), of whom the whole family perceived as small Continue reading
“Try for one day to record all the phrases and comments that you tell your children. And find that more than half of the words and claims are of a negative connotation,” so begins a seminar for parents of Kiev psychologist and coach Evgeny Miroshnichenko.
The Soviet model of education, according to him, today’s children are not suitable. Strict discipline and insistence on the part of parents, children often perceive as a dislike. Post-Soviet moms and dads have to learn the respect for children, and the ability to clearly designate the boundaries of what, and more importantly, effective communication, without shouting and humiliation. But, it turns out, not many can do it. Adults unconsciously reproduce anything that you experienced in childhood. To break this vicious circle, of Ukrainian parents are sent to special training.
“I tell my son the same hurtful words that I once said mother, and blamed myself for it. But how to explain to him that you need to learn, don’t know,” about such a complaint comes to training every other parent. “Many adults think about how to educate children, not to cause them psychological trauma they received in childhood, standing in a corner on the buckwheat,” says Evgeny Miroshnichenko.
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Many parents do not think about this issue – communication happens by itself, they are happy and the parents and the children. While. But there are adults who have already realized the great importance of the communication style to the personality development of their child.
It is experimentally proved that if the baby gets good nutrition and good medical care, but deprived of regular contact with an adult, he develops not only mentally, but also physically: not growing, lose weight, lose interest in life. However, as food can be harmful and incorrect communication can hurt the psyche of the child, his emotional well-being and will subsequently impact on his life.
How to communicate with your child? This question is complicated and simple at the same time. Difficult due to our style of communication is influenced by many factors, most of which we are not aware. Experts came to the conclusion that the parent’s interaction involuntarily imprinted in the psyche of the child before school age. As an adult, a person plays it like a natural. Thus from generation to generation is social inheritance of the style of communication: the majority of parents raise their children the way they themselves were raised in childhood. At the same Continue reading