All about the children – Meeting for parents of “Prevention of emotional disorders in children”
Today our meeting will be devoted to the specifics of the emotional development of children and prevention of emotional disorders.
Everyone knows that the emotions we mirror our desires and their satisfaction. It is very important that the emotional state of our children were safe.
Negative emotions accumulate, and this may affect somatic health (tics, stuttering, enuresis, develop fears, aggressiveness as a defensive reaction). With prolonged stress, these States can become stable features of personality. Moreover, for example, such a condition, as aggression can be a result of copying the behavior of others or defensive reaction. “Defensively”, the child can make the seemingly inexplicable actions: to run away from home, so adults looking for him, thought about him, etc.
There are many examples of neurotic condition becomes a neurosis, which go to the doctor. It is very important to notice unusual emotional state of the baby and to know how to behave with such a child. And now let us look at this chart, which reflects the causes of emotional problems of preschoolers.
These are the main reasons for the existence of emotional problems of the child. Now let’s talk about a very important issue – on punishment.
Pre-recorded on tape the children’s responses to the following questions:
Punish the parents of the children? For what?
Do you think this is usually true or not?
What does it feel like the child otnosheniy to the brow
century, who punishes him?
If you were(a) mom(dad), punished(a) would you bast
What praise children’s parents? Often this happens?
Sometimes children themselves are bad. The parents in these cases should respond to the child’s behavior. This is not simple question. Here it is important not to throw out their negative status on the child, and to find the right approach to it.
How, in your opinion, need to respond in the following situations.
You are at home. Suddenly from the other room is heard
sound of breaking glass. You run into a room and see her
the child standing at the shards of your favorite vases. He ISPU
You quarrel with a close friend. The baby can hear.
Do you think that he can test with? And how
respond if baby cries?
You together with the child go for a walk. He is new
toy. At the end of the walk, you suddenly notice that the toy is not,
somewhere she lost her, alas, impossible.
What would you do if your child has deceived you?
Your child is returned dirty.
Where do you start the conversation, examining bad thing d
As you consider whether you can punish with a belt? What’s the harm
Do I have to explain to the child why you give him something the customer
Thus, the problem of punishment can stand, if the child has done something wrong.
when punishing a child it is better to deprive him of the good than
to do him bad;
requirements parents must not contradict the essential
the needs of the child (run, jump, draw, noisy play);
should be the consistency of rules between the parents;
the tone of presentation of the claim or prohibition must be other
divine awareness, not imperative;
the explanation should be short and to repeat myself once.
Aggressive behavior of adults, negative traits are for the child the subject of imitation. Numerous evidence suggests that violence against children is wrapped with a time of violence and brutality towards the parents, especially the elderly. It is important to understand that it is impossible to impose their will on the punishment.
Many children are ready to receive any portion of the punishment to defend their “rights”. Punishment can produce only temporary results, causing the child to strengthen their disobedience.
And most importantly, know that any serious violation of behavior is a cry for help. The kid tells us: “I feel so bad! Help!” Thus, the persistent disobedience of the child should be sought in the depths of his psyche.
There are four main causes of serious violations of children’s behavior.
Fighting for attention.
The struggle for self-assertion (the fight against excessive
parental authority and custody).
The desire to take revenge for her parents ‘ divorce, for a separation from seven
her – he’s at grandma’s or in the hospital, for providing more attention
the younger and more. Deep down, the child is going through, Strada
no, but on the surface – protests, disobedience).
Loss of faith in their own success (“I don’t care. “,
“Let’m the bad guy. “).
On the emotional sphere of the child has a great impact channels.
Questions for discussion:
Remember that TV program (which characters)
loves your child.
Have you ever noticed that after watching any re
villas somehow changes the behavior of the child?
Is it possible that, when there is no time to engage with the child,
you leave it at the TV, not knowing what transmission now
Do you try to limit the time watching
of TV your child?
We can say that in our day the child grows and is formed not only under the influence of their parents, but also society as a whole. Today, movies, television, computers often entirely replace the parents, and the results of such “education” is not always possible to correct.
There are two points of view of scientists about the impact of television on viewers. Some believe that it allows the audience to mentally experience what is going on on the screen, to give way to aggressive emotions and get rid of them. Others believe that the demonstration of violence contributes to aggressive behavior.
A study in Russia showed that the Russian viewer sees on the screen a scene of violence, on average, every 12 minutes, and in the evening – every 4 minutes. But if we add to this the abundance of reports of accidents, accidents, natural disasters and terrorist acts resulted in the deaths of people, you can imagine how weak and vulnerable should feel the baby.
All this gives rise to feelings of anxiety, fear, insecurity or aggressiveness. And here for baby is important to the successful experience of education in the family, there is an atmosphere of trust and love. This information allows you to reflect on what look your children on TV, whether they favor, is their good quality.
Now each of you will independently perform a brief exercise.
To the beginning of each phrase in the first column find the end-the conclusion from the second column. Connect the arrow.
You understand that teaches children what surrounds them. Try to pick up that the child develops under the influence of the environment.
– Now let’s test ourselves:
If the child is often criticized – he learns to condemn.
If the child is often ridiculed – he learns to be shy.
If a child lives with a sense of security – he learns
If the child is often encouraged – he learns confidence
If a child usually honest – he learns justice.
If the child often approve – he learns good to yourself
If the child often indulged – he learns
Dear parents! Would love to have this conversation had any impact on your relationship with the children. You all love your children, but if you know how to show their love, the child realized that he is loved? Does the child that you love him not only when he deserves it, and always, regardless of his behavior?