How to raise children in different countries
Why the Japanese can not imagine my life outside of the team, the Americans are tolerant, and the French are too independent?
Adult category of national identity is laid in man from childhood and is rooted in the way of education. Education methods methods of influence, systematically (and not only one-time and situational) changing the child’s behavior. For example, learning and teaching – methods of education. Methods of education – more.
a fraction, the smaller the unit of technology education, it is a specific way or form of implementation of either method.
Part of the techniques closely tied to specific methods, other methods can be used inside different methods. Methods and techniques of raising a child depends primarily on personal characteristics of parents, their intentions and competence. In a free education is more often used method is well directed freedom in discipline of instruction and a system of reinforcements.
Japanese children live in three stages: God – slave – to-peer. After five years of “the beyond” and almost absolute permissiveness (within reason, of course), it is probably not easy to pull yourself together and start to follow the common system of rules and restrictions.
Only 15 years for child begin to relate as an equal, wanting to see him as a disciplined and law-abiding citizen.
Lecturing, yelling or corporal punishment – all these non-teaching “charms” Japanese children are deprived. The worst punishment becomes “game of silence” is adults just for a while stop with the baby to communicate. Adults are not trying to dominate the children are keen to show his power and strength, maybe that’s why throughout the life of the Japanese idolize their parents (especially mothers) and try not to give them trouble.
In 50-ies of the last century in Japan was the revolutionary book “the Training of talents”. With the filing of its author, Masaru Ibuka, the country first began talking about the need for early childhood development. Based on the fact that in the first three years of life formed the personality of the child, parents are obliged to create conditions for the realization of his abilities.
The feeling of belonging to a community is what is really important for all Japanese without exception. It is not surprising that parents preach one simple truth: “alone easily get lost in the intricacies of life”. However, minus the Japanese approach to education is obvious: life on the principle of “all” and group consciousness not give personal qualities a chance.
The main feature of the French system of education – early socialization and independence kids. Many French women can only dream of many years of maternity leave, as forced early to go to work. French nursery ready to take kids at the age of 2-3 months. Despite the care and love that parents know how to say “No!”. Adults require children discipline and unquestioning obedience. Quite a glance that the kid “bounced back”.
Little French always say “magic words”, still waiting for lunch or starchy swarming in the sandbox while their mothers talk with a friend. On small pranks parents do not pay attention, but for a major infraction punished “ruble”: deprive of entertainment, gifts or sweets.
Excellent study of the French system of education presented in the book, Pamela Druckerman “French children don’t spit your food”. Indeed, European children are very obedient, calm and independent. Problems arise in cases where parents are overly fond of their own personal life – then exclusion can not be avoided.
Children in Italy is not just love. Adore them! Not only their own parents and numerous relatives, but also by outsiders. To say that something is someone else’s child, and pinch his cheeks or “scare goat” is considered to be in the order of things. To go to kindergarten in three years, and before that time he probably will be under the “watchful” control of a grandparent, aunt or uncle, cousins, nieces and other relatives. “Withdraw into the light” children begin very early – take them to concerts, to restaurants, to weddings.
To make a point, not to mention humbling spanking, is unacceptable behavior for a parent. If you constantly tell a child that he will grow up to be pathetic – think Italian parents. This strategy, sometimes, ends in shame: absolute permissiveness leads to the fact that many children have no idea about common decency.
The Indians begin to educate their children almost from birth. The most important quality that parents want to see their kids, is kindness. By example, they teach children to be patient with others, to control your emotions in any situation. Adults try to hide from the kids in a bad mood or fatigue.
Good intentions should be permeated all the life of a child: a cautionary tale “don’t squish an ant and don’t throw stones at birds” is transformed into “thou shalt not oppress the weak and respect your elders”. The highest praise a child not worthy when it became “better than another”, and when he became a “better themselves”. While Indian parents are very conservative, for example, they flatly refuse to accept the introduction into the school curriculum relevant to modern disciplines.
Raising children has always been regarded in India as the prerogative of the state and relegated to parents who could raise a child in accordance with their beliefs, including religious ones.
Americans have qualities that can easily give them the “in-crowd” of inner freedom peacefully coexists with political correctness and strict adherence to the letter of the law. The desire to be closer to the child, to understand the problems and interested in the success – critical aspects of American lives-parents. It is no coincidence that on any kindergarten or school matinee football match you can see a large number of dads and moms with cameras in hand.
The older generation in the education of grandchildren did not participate, but mom possibly prefer the work of caring for family. From an early age the child learns tolerance, therefore, to adapt, for example, special children in the team is quite simple. A clear advantage of the American system of education is the informality and the desire to focus on practical knowledge.
Bednesti, which negatively perceived in many countries, in America is called a “law-abiding” is to bring those who broke the law, is considered to be absolutely natural. Corporal punishment society are blamed, and if the child complains of parents and present “evidence” (bruises or abrasions), the actions of adults can be regarded as illegal with all the ensuing consequences. As punishment, many parents use the popular method of “time-out” when the child is asked to sit silently and think about their behavior.