“Try for one day to record all the phrases and comments that you tell your children. And find that more than half of the words and claims are of a negative connotation,” so begins a seminar for parents of Kiev psychologist and coach Evgeny Miroshnichenko.
The Soviet model of education, according to him, today’s children are not suitable. Strict discipline and insistence on the part of parents, children often perceive as a dislike. Post-Soviet moms and dads have to learn the respect for children, and the ability to clearly designate the boundaries of what, and more importantly, effective communication, without shouting and humiliation. But, it turns out, not many can do it. Adults unconsciously reproduce anything that you experienced in childhood. To break this vicious circle, of Ukrainian parents are sent to special training.
“I tell my son the same hurtful words that I once said mother, and blamed myself for it. But how to explain to him that you need to learn, don’t know,” about such a complaint comes to training every other parent. “Many adults think about how to educate children, not to cause them psychological trauma they received in childhood, standing in a corner on the buckwheat,” says Evgeny Miroshnichenko.
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Some parents consciously strive to ensure that the age difference between their children was minimal. Others lose vigilance, piously believing that while mom feeds her baby breast, a birth is impossible. Usually, doctors recommend women to plan their next pregnancy after 2-3 years after birth. At the same time, it is widely believed that the birth after a short pass easier, because the body “remembers” the recent experience. Who’s right – official medicine or popular rumor? What is the ideal interval between the appearances of the children to light?
Doctors often say that pregnancy – is not a disease, but at the same time see it as a test for the organism. In the body of a woman expecting a baby, there are the huge changes – changing the quantity and quality of blood, increasing pressure in the abdomen , several times increases the load on the internal organs (heart, lungs, urogenital system and digestive tract), spine and blood vessels. That’s why the waiting period the child is often exacerbated chronic disease or identification of new. The fetus receives from the mother’s body all the nutrients required for growth and development, so pregnant women increases the need for vitamins and minerals. In addition, during pregnancy, childbirth and lactation is constantly changing the hormonal Continue reading
Your son prefers cars to all the other toys? What explains this preoccupation?
Despite the fact that the house has already tens of wheeled equipment, the child still rejoices greatly, if he has received as a gift another car, bus, tractor… And my mother is going through, because his son needed to fully develop, and, in addition to cars, not interested in anything.
Why is he so loves cars?
Well-known theory of imitation, in which a boy in the games tries on the role of the father or other reputable men, sitting behind the wheel of a car, in our case it does not work. The fact is that the baby begins to identify themselves by gender in the age of about 3 years, and the passion for cars appears much earlier, some boys are already for a year and a half. Passion during this time (from 1 year to 3 years) is gaining momentum and later reinforced by the understanding that “I, as a dad, I love to ride in the car.” And from this understanding becomes even stronger. But even before one and a half years, and more specifically, in the prenatal period of a boy’s body begins to produce male-specific hormones — androgens, which, in the opinion of physiologists, and are the reason for choosing “masculine” Continue reading