“Try for one day to record all the phrases and comments that you tell your children. And find that more than half of the words and claims are of a negative connotation,” so begins a seminar for parents of Kiev psychologist and coach Evgeny Miroshnichenko.
The Soviet model of education, according to him, today’s children are not suitable. Strict discipline and insistence on the part of parents, children often perceive as a dislike. Post-Soviet moms and dads have to learn the respect for children, and the ability to clearly designate the boundaries of what, and more importantly, effective communication, without shouting and humiliation. But, it turns out, not many can do it. Adults unconsciously reproduce anything that you experienced in childhood. To break this vicious circle, of Ukrainian parents are sent to special training.
“I tell my son the same hurtful words that I once said mother, and blamed myself for it. But how to explain to him that you need to learn, don’t know,” about such a complaint comes to training every other parent. “Many adults think about how to educate children, not to cause them psychological trauma they received in childhood, standing in a corner on the buckwheat,” says Evgeny Miroshnichenko.
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Your son prefers cars to all the other toys? What explains this preoccupation?
Despite the fact that the house has already tens of wheeled equipment, the child still rejoices greatly, if he has received as a gift another car, bus, tractor… And my mother is going through, because his son needed to fully develop, and, in addition to cars, not interested in anything.
Why is he so loves cars?
Well-known theory of imitation, in which a boy in the games tries on the role of the father or other reputable men, sitting behind the wheel of a car, in our case it does not work. The fact is that the baby begins to identify themselves by gender in the age of about 3 years, and the passion for cars appears much earlier, some boys are already for a year and a half. Passion during this time (from 1 year to 3 years) is gaining momentum and later reinforced by the understanding that “I, as a dad, I love to ride in the car.” And from this understanding becomes even stronger. But even before one and a half years, and more specifically, in the prenatal period of a boy’s body begins to produce male-specific hormones — androgens, which, in the opinion of physiologists, and are the reason for choosing “masculine” Continue reading
When a child enters an early age, he may cry for different minor (from the point of view of the mother), because the nervous system is under development. More kids cry with melancholy temperament, which implies the weakness of the nervous processes. This kid can Wake up crying to fall asleep and weeping, easily upset, worried, if something does not work, sociable, but dependent on fellowship (experiencing, if another kid doesn’t want to be friends with him).
Cry baby at this age, when left without a mother is like the earth under my feet to lose.
But even at this age crying can be capricious. A sensitive mother can understand when a child is naughty, and when he’s really upset (which happens often). Generally, in order to determine this, you need to analyze the events that occurred before the scream. If the baby hasn’t slept in a long walk in the street, now it’s time to go home, and he has the hatchet, because he wants to ride on the swings, mom will understand that it is not just a whim, it is a signal of fatigue, which should not exacerbate, and distracting the baby, run home.
If the child requires the store to buy a toy, mom refuses, he insists and rushes in crying, there was a desire to insist. At this age the child can be easily distracted, to divert Continue reading