“Try for one day to record all the phrases and comments that you tell your children. And find that more than half of the words and claims are of a negative connotation,” so begins a seminar for parents of Kiev psychologist and coach Evgeny Miroshnichenko.
The Soviet model of education, according to him, today’s children are not suitable. Strict discipline and insistence on the part of parents, children often perceive as a dislike. Post-Soviet moms and dads have to learn the respect for children, and the ability to clearly designate the boundaries of what, and more importantly, effective communication, without shouting and humiliation. But, it turns out, not many can do it. Adults unconsciously reproduce anything that you experienced in childhood. To break this vicious circle, of Ukrainian parents are sent to special training.
“I tell my son the same hurtful words that I once said mother, and blamed myself for it. But how to explain to him that you need to learn, don’t know,” about such a complaint comes to training every other parent. “Many adults think about how to educate children, not to cause them psychological trauma they received in childhood, standing in a corner on the buckwheat,” says Evgeny Miroshnichenko.
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Your son prefers cars to all the other toys? What explains this preoccupation?
Despite the fact that the house has already tens of wheeled equipment, the child still rejoices greatly, if he has received as a gift another car, bus, tractor… And my mother is going through, because his son needed to fully develop, and, in addition to cars, not interested in anything.
Why is he so loves cars?
Well-known theory of imitation, in which a boy in the games tries on the role of the father or other reputable men, sitting behind the wheel of a car, in our case it does not work. The fact is that the baby begins to identify themselves by gender in the age of about 3 years, and the passion for cars appears much earlier, some boys are already for a year and a half. Passion during this time (from 1 year to 3 years) is gaining momentum and later reinforced by the understanding that “I, as a dad, I love to ride in the car.” And from this understanding becomes even stronger. But even before one and a half years, and more specifically, in the prenatal period of a boy’s body begins to produce male-specific hormones — androgens, which, in the opinion of physiologists, and are the reason for choosing “masculine” Continue reading
Many parents do not think about this issue – communication happens by itself, they are happy and the parents and the children. While. But there are adults who have already realized the great importance of the communication style to the personality development of their child.
It is experimentally proved that if the baby gets good nutrition and good medical care, but deprived of regular contact with an adult, he develops not only mentally, but also physically: not growing, lose weight, lose interest in life. However, as food can be harmful and incorrect communication can hurt the psyche of the child, his emotional well-being and will subsequently impact on his life.
How to communicate with your child? This question is complicated and simple at the same time. Difficult due to our style of communication is influenced by many factors, most of which we are not aware. Experts came to the conclusion that the parent’s interaction involuntarily imprinted in the psyche of the child before school age. As an adult, a person plays it like a natural. Thus from generation to generation is social inheritance of the style of communication: the majority of parents raise their children the way they themselves were raised in childhood. At the same Continue reading