“Try for one day to record all the phrases and comments that you tell your children. And find that more than half of the words and claims are of a negative connotation,” so begins a seminar for parents of Kiev psychologist and coach Evgeny Miroshnichenko.
The Soviet model of education, according to him, today’s children are not suitable. Strict discipline and insistence on the part of parents, children often perceive as a dislike. Post-Soviet moms and dads have to learn the respect for children, and the ability to clearly designate the boundaries of what, and more importantly, effective communication, without shouting and humiliation. But, it turns out, not many can do it. Adults unconsciously reproduce anything that you experienced in childhood. To break this vicious circle, of Ukrainian parents are sent to special training.
“I tell my son the same hurtful words that I once said mother, and blamed myself for it. But how to explain to him that you need to learn, don’t know,” about such a complaint comes to training every other parent. “Many adults think about how to educate children, not to cause them psychological trauma they received in childhood, standing in a corner on the buckwheat,” says Evgeny Miroshnichenko.
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Many parents do not think about this issue – communication happens by itself, they are happy and the parents and the children. While. But there are adults who have already realized the great importance of the communication style to the personality development of their child.
It is experimentally proved that if the baby gets good nutrition and good medical care, but deprived of regular contact with an adult, he develops not only mentally, but also physically: not growing, lose weight, lose interest in life. However, as food can be harmful and incorrect communication can hurt the psyche of the child, his emotional well-being and will subsequently impact on his life.
How to communicate with your child? This question is complicated and simple at the same time. Difficult due to our style of communication is influenced by many factors, most of which we are not aware. Experts came to the conclusion that the parent’s interaction involuntarily imprinted in the psyche of the child before school age. As an adult, a person plays it like a natural. Thus from generation to generation is social inheritance of the style of communication: the majority of parents raise their children the way they themselves were raised in childhood. At the same Continue reading
When a child enters an early age, he may cry for different minor (from the point of view of the mother), because the nervous system is under development. More kids cry with melancholy temperament, which implies the weakness of the nervous processes. This kid can Wake up crying to fall asleep and weeping, easily upset, worried, if something does not work, sociable, but dependent on fellowship (experiencing, if another kid doesn’t want to be friends with him).
Cry baby at this age, when left without a mother is like the earth under my feet to lose.
But even at this age crying can be capricious. A sensitive mother can understand when a child is naughty, and when he’s really upset (which happens often). Generally, in order to determine this, you need to analyze the events that occurred before the scream. If the baby hasn’t slept in a long walk in the street, now it’s time to go home, and he has the hatchet, because he wants to ride on the swings, mom will understand that it is not just a whim, it is a signal of fatigue, which should not exacerbate, and distracting the baby, run home.
If the child requires the store to buy a toy, mom refuses, he insists and rushes in crying, there was a desire to insist. At this age the child can be easily distracted, to divert Continue reading