“Try for one day to record all the phrases and comments that you tell your children. And find that more than half of the words and claims are of a negative connotation,” so begins a seminar for parents of Kiev psychologist and coach Evgeny Miroshnichenko.
The Soviet model of education, according to him, today’s children are not suitable. Strict discipline and insistence on the part of parents, children often perceive as a dislike. Post-Soviet moms and dads have to learn the respect for children, and the ability to clearly designate the boundaries of what, and more importantly, effective communication, without shouting and humiliation. But, it turns out, not many can do it. Adults unconsciously reproduce anything that you experienced in childhood. To break this vicious circle, of Ukrainian parents are sent to special training.
“I tell my son the same hurtful words that I once said mother, and blamed myself for it. But how to explain to him that you need to learn, don’t know,” about such a complaint comes to training every other parent. “Many adults think about how to educate children, not to cause them psychological trauma they received in childhood, standing in a corner on the buckwheat,” says Evgeny Miroshnichenko.
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I often say that every kid – it’s the person and not his nurture, and develop a “under the General size fits all”. So the question is – and is “the proper upbringing of the child”? For me, vospitanie “right”, if the child grew up healthy physically and mentally and he grafted human values. So today I will tell you the 12 principles of child rearing, and the rest – your creativity.
What You do makes a huge difference. You – the standard of behavior for your child and all your words that you cannot scream, you have to be honest, you need to wear a hat and all the rest, will not mean anything until you will not to follow them. Do you think that will make a child, if I hear from you not to shout, and immediately after that will see how you yell at his father? Picture of the world in his head will be shaky and ambiguous, it is certainly not what you wanted to achieve. Baby learns to talk, to respond, to Express emotions, to behave in society, looking at you and daddy. So set an example.
Views on the education and actions of the parents must be United. Only then the child will feel the security and integrity of the surrounding world. If a mother comforting a baby after dad hits him on the butt with a belt, so you’re raising the paddle. Continue reading
Many parents do not think about this issue – communication happens by itself, they are happy and the parents and the children. While. But there are adults who have already realized the great importance of the communication style to the personality development of their child.
It is experimentally proved that if the baby gets good nutrition and good medical care, but deprived of regular contact with an adult, he develops not only mentally, but also physically: not growing, lose weight, lose interest in life. However, as food can be harmful and incorrect communication can hurt the psyche of the child, his emotional well-being and will subsequently impact on his life.
How to communicate with your child? This question is complicated and simple at the same time. Difficult due to our style of communication is influenced by many factors, most of which we are not aware. Experts came to the conclusion that the parent’s interaction involuntarily imprinted in the psyche of the child before school age. As an adult, a person plays it like a natural. Thus from generation to generation is social inheritance of the style of communication: the majority of parents raise their children the way they themselves were raised in childhood. At the same Continue reading