“Try for one day to record all the phrases and comments that you tell your children. And find that more than half of the words and claims are of a negative connotation,” so begins a seminar for parents of Kiev psychologist and coach Evgeny Miroshnichenko.
The Soviet model of education, according to him, today’s children are not suitable. Strict discipline and insistence on the part of parents, children often perceive as a dislike. Post-Soviet moms and dads have to learn the respect for children, and the ability to clearly designate the boundaries of what, and more importantly, effective communication, without shouting and humiliation. But, it turns out, not many can do it. Adults unconsciously reproduce anything that you experienced in childhood. To break this vicious circle, of Ukrainian parents are sent to special training.
“I tell my son the same hurtful words that I once said mother, and blamed myself for it. But how to explain to him that you need to learn, don’t know,” about such a complaint comes to training every other parent. “Many adults think about how to educate children, not to cause them psychological trauma they received in childhood, standing in a corner on the buckwheat,” says Evgeny Miroshnichenko.
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I often say that every kid – it’s the person and not his nurture, and develop a “under the General size fits all”. So the question is – and is “the proper upbringing of the child”? For me, vospitanie “right”, if the child grew up healthy physically and mentally and he grafted human values. So today I will tell you the 12 principles of child rearing, and the rest – your creativity.
What You do makes a huge difference. You – the standard of behavior for your child and all your words that you cannot scream, you have to be honest, you need to wear a hat and all the rest, will not mean anything until you will not to follow them. Do you think that will make a child, if I hear from you not to shout, and immediately after that will see how you yell at his father? Picture of the world in his head will be shaky and ambiguous, it is certainly not what you wanted to achieve. Baby learns to talk, to respond, to Express emotions, to behave in society, looking at you and daddy. So set an example.
Views on the education and actions of the parents must be United. Only then the child will feel the security and integrity of the surrounding world. If a mother comforting a baby after dad hits him on the butt with a belt, so you’re raising the paddle. Continue reading
When a child enters an early age, he may cry for different minor (from the point of view of the mother), because the nervous system is under development. More kids cry with melancholy temperament, which implies the weakness of the nervous processes. This kid can Wake up crying to fall asleep and weeping, easily upset, worried, if something does not work, sociable, but dependent on fellowship (experiencing, if another kid doesn’t want to be friends with him).
Cry baby at this age, when left without a mother is like the earth under my feet to lose.
But even at this age crying can be capricious. A sensitive mother can understand when a child is naughty, and when he’s really upset (which happens often). Generally, in order to determine this, you need to analyze the events that occurred before the scream. If the baby hasn’t slept in a long walk in the street, now it’s time to go home, and he has the hatchet, because he wants to ride on the swings, mom will understand that it is not just a whim, it is a signal of fatigue, which should not exacerbate, and distracting the baby, run home.
If the child requires the store to buy a toy, mom refuses, he insists and rushes in crying, there was a desire to insist. At this age the child can be easily distracted, to divert Continue reading